How To Confidently Be Alone With Your Thoughts

Worries: "What if's" that pile up and overwhelm us.
 
Fears: The worst case scenarios playing on repeat as you live through the outcomes in your mind again and again.
 
Pain: Haunted by past ghosts, past traumas that keep us stuck and from moving forward confidently.
 
It is easy to understand why we can easily become afraid to listen to the very thoughts in our own mind.
 
They can truly hurt. They have great power to hold us hostage.
 
The thing is, our thoughts are not going anywhere.
 
If you think of your thoughts as separate from you it becomes easier to keep them in their proper perspective and correctly sort them out.
 
It our thoughts are true and considered an accurate reflection of our mind and the very essence of WHO we are, they are far more difficult to look at objectively and to question.
 
Your thoughts are nothing more than a dear friend. Not WHO you are but part of you that is working to look out for you, wants the best for you. However, like any dear friend, they do not always have all the answers or know what is best for us. So fear fills in the blanks.
 
This is why we cannot consider our thoughts to be accurate or rational until they have been properly analyzed.
 
This fear of the unknown, fear of everything we do not have a clear answer for will overwhelm us if it is allowed to go unchecked.
 
When your back is against the wall and it seems you have no options, this fear is what verifies and validates your hopelessness.
 
In reality, however, the truth is that you simply do not know of any options or what the future will hold for you. Because of this, we cannot trust our thoughts. They do not hold all the answers and they are designed to keep us safe, even from ourselves by installing a fear of things unknown.
 
Like a dear friend will fight to save you from yourself when required, so will your thoughts.
 
You have to understand this about your thoughts in order to take back the power over them and dispel the fear.
 
When you understand that your mind is purposefully attempting to save you because it is afraid of what it doesn't know, you can counter this fear with facts of things that you do know.
 
What if no one likes you? Well, if this works out to be true or false is worrying now about that possibility going to help you or hurt you? Worrying about something that may not even happen will hurt you. It will trap you in a mindset of the possibility it could be true therefore making every encounter you share with another person be filtered through this possibility. As long as you are looking for things that could go wrong you will find them.
 
Not only that but when you worry about the what ifs of things that haven't even come to be you also place yourself in a space that it is already true. Your actions will reflect this truth and those around you will naturally react to your actions. If you believe you are not worthy of love, others will understand this too, not usually conscientiously, but they will see you the way you see yourself.
 
All we are is the story we tell ourselves that we are.
 
If it is your past that has plagued your thoughts, embrace it. That past is the dear friend working to keep you safe from the pain it held for you.
 
Only thing is, once again, your thoughts do not know what is best for you. Hiding from that pain is the exact thing that keeps it cycling back to the surface and showing up where it is least needed.
 
The only answer is to embrace that past and the pain that comes with it. Doing this allows you to clearly use that pain as a reminder (safe reminder) of where you no longer want to go again and be put in that same position.
 
That pain will also act as an empowering shield in your life as you embrace it. It will serve to help you stand taller, more confidently as you proclaim, "Look where I have been and all that I have overcome." It is a part of you now. It, good or bad, has worked to shape who you have now become. You get to choose if you use the bad and the pain to work for you to shape you for the good or if you allow the bad and the pain to consume you and shape you as a shell of yourself.
 
Which will you choose?
Embrace your thoughts.
All of them.
 
Question them and seek to understand their purpose and what they are trying to protect you from.
 
Do you truly need their protection or are they simply scared and in need of facts?
Do not believe your thoughts blindly.
 
You do not have all of the answers and you are not meant to have them now.
Some you will grow into. Some you are yet to find.
 
How will we find the answers? How do we grow?
 
We grow by working through our thoughts. By working through our fears and worries and pains and using them, the truth in them, to further build us up and strengthen our foundation.
 
We grow by not being afraid of our thoughts but instead by questioning their very existence. Why are they there? What is their true purpose? What are they trying to do for you, protect you from? Is that protection needed?
 
Are your feelings deceiving you or deflecting from the real truth? The truth that pain is needed to build you strong. The truth that you are afraid and that fact is okay. The truth that you won't always be afraid, if you work through the fear you will gain the answers that will dispel the fear.
 
You simply have to start.
Question everything.
 
Love your thoughts and develop a good relationship with your mind, that dear friend, and work to trust one another.
 
Analyze and pursue truth relentlessly in your own mind.
 
Truth will always protect you and strengthen you.
 
It may hurt, it may start with fear but it is always there for growth and for you to find the good in. Take it all in. Embrace it, learn from it and grow.
 
Enjoy a healthy, skeptical relationship with your thoughts. They are not a blind truth. They do not define WHO you are. They are guiding you, but you must assist them to go anywhere. A guide cannot get you anywhere without your participation. A guide can lead you off a cliff if you follow blindly.
 
Seek to love your thoughts as the guide they long to be for you. Do not be afraid to get to know and love yourself at the innermost depths of WHO you are and who you long to become.
 
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