I Am A Failure

You failed... What do those two words do to you?

Do they break you? Do they cause you to get angry? Sad?

What if I told you they were two of my favorite words?

Would you have to write me off as crazy? Would you want to learn why?

As a society, we have a double standard when it comes to failure.

There are two ways we use the idea of failure. One way, means death, the end, tragedy. While the other way we use the idea of failure is praised and admired and greatly valued.

We use a different word for the valued failures though. We call it practice.

Wether you are practicing a musical instrument, a sport, or honing a skill of any kind, practicing is essential to growth and we know it. We also understand that it is not an easy road, it requires hard work. We completely connect with the idea that we won't get it perfect right away and that it is the progress that we are looking for.

When we fail while practicing something important to us, we do not beat ourselves up but use that fail to drive us forward.

We greatly respect the Olympic athletes for the vast number of times they had to fail and keep going, learning from each one as they enhance their skill.

We learn all we can from that fail and make the needed changes to do it better the next time. After all, this is only practice. Right?

What is more important to you than your life? What is more important than your happiness?

Is that why we put so much more pressure on the word failure when it is related to advancing in our life? Because it is so much more important than a game?

Perhaps. Does it have to be that way though? Can we fail in life without the pressure?

Sure we can! All of life is practice. In every choice we make, we practice and see if that outcome works for us or if it doesn't.

Life is our biggest game. Life is our greatest skill that we will work to hone and grow. If we do not practice, and fail.... how will we ever improve and create something amazing for ourselves?

Next time you fail, I suggest you replace that word with the word practice. It is easier for your brain to understand practicing and its true value.

It is also easier for you to understand what to do with that failed practice... learn from it, make the needed changes then grow intentionally.

We are all practicing at life. No one has a rule book. The greatest rewards so often come from our greatest failures. This is because failure creates the fastest and most accurate path to beneficial change.

Have you heard, hindsight is 2020 vision? When you look backwards you can clearly see what should have happened? What you should have done that you did not know beforehand?

Failures give us instant and often clear information about changes we desperately want to or need to make to live more happily.

Do you see how extremely valuable failure can be to your personal growth? It is like growth on a fast track.

You can barely risk anything, trying not to fail and you will grow. You will grow at the same pace as the risk you invite. Growth will be small and slower.

Or you can set out to fail just so you can learn from the mountain of new information you will gain and make so many more educated changes going forward.

I will choose fail every time. Will you?

Throw me right in the deep end, I know there is a raft close if I need one and that I will learn faster this way.

Failure only means what you choose to believe that it means. Failure is not the opposite of success but rather the fastest path to success.

I wish you many failures in your life. It is by far the best way to live!

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