How to Confidently Grow Into Adulthood
Aug 31, 2020
Do you ever get frustrated by something outside of your control?
Do you ever get scared because you can't imagine how things will ever be okay again?
Are your feelings sometimes just more than you can handle?
If so, you are not alone. Everyone experiences this at various times. We are all affected and handle the downfall from it differently.
These concerns are a normal and natural part of our lives. They happen to us all the time from the moment we are born until the day that we pass on.
For some reason though, we know this fact is true for children and they are excused of their attitude while they are learning and growing through frustrations.
Children get a pass from the judgement that comes with feelings overwhelming them when they are tired or upset.
Children are helped instead of judged when they are scared by things that they do not yet understand.
Children's anger is overlooked when they are clearly frustrated by things that they cannot control, even when these things look completely irrational to the rest of us. People sometimes think about irrational things, we always will.
Irrational thoughts are how we attempt to understand our world and our limits.
Irrational thoughts are the other side of our imagination. Our imagination give us the ability to see better and farther than we could believe is possible, it enables us to dream. Our irrational fears and thoughts allow us to be protected from following our every whim by making us afraid of the things that could harm us.
The thing is, that is normal. Fears like that are there to help us.
So like children, we need to let ourselves off the hook when they show up in our lives.
We need to allow ourselves our feelings. They deserve a place of respect. We deserve to be sad when we are sad. We deserve to be angry when we are angry.
Just like children, we need to allow ourselves the ability to grow through these moments in the same way that we allow children to do so.
When we reach a certain age, it doesn’t miraculously mean that now we have it all together. It doesn’t mean that we have to be fearless and have all of the answers.
There isn’t a magical barrier that we cross where suddenly as a grown person we now have perfect control of our thoughts and feelings and everything else.
No, we are children too. We are always and forever growing in our emotions and our thoughts. We need to keep the perspective that we are constantly growing. We are forever learning and working to manage our minds.
This is the journey of life and it is beautiful.
Never beat yourself up and punish yourself for these growing and learning moments.
Embrace these moments of pure confusion and frustration and learn all that you can from them. Approach them as children do and use all that you learn to shape your future with the new knowledge you gain in these moments.
Allow them to guide you into creating a future that is everything you want it to be with less and less of the things you don’t want.
Living life with the pressures of a child is far easier than living with the pressures of an adult. Adults add pressure where there does not need to be any.
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Renee Lowry
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Renee Lowry is a Certified Transitional Coach and Relationship Expert in New York, NY. This mother of two beautiful girls and wife of twenty plus years has been called Emotions Public Relations Representative. She embraces this title because her passion is helping people understand that emotions are valuable tools, given to enable us to receive the best life has to offer.
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